Yes. I want my college to be difficult, because that means I’m learning, right?
No. I do not want my college to purposely make everything so difficult that when I go into the real world I am constantly scoffing at everyone around me for not killing themselves over their work because I believe that is how life should be.
In 1937 two women caused a car accident by wearing shorts in public for the first time
In 1937 a careless driver caused an accident when he took his eyes off the road to ogle 2 women wearing shorts in public for the first time.
fucking thank you
[2 am devil’s advocate moment] While you are taking the blame away from the women here, you are also taking the power from them.
No, dammit. I am so stunning that I took away your power to drive properly. I have that power over you. I will take the blame if I can keep that power.
LAUGHING SO HARD
look this thing doesn’t have a date that I can see on it but if it was made within the last 20 years or so (which I assume it was) then this shit is postmodern art so joke’s on you artist person
"I could do that + yeah but you didn’t" um just because you did something doesn’t mean you should have
"i’m sorry because i’ve realized that what i said was fucked up and harmful" is very, very different from "i’m sorry because now people are mad at me and i want to placate them so that they’ll stop criticizing me" and the two are not interchangeable
"Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women." ~ (unattributed)
My uncle used to be part of a reenactment organization. They have official initials but I don’t remember. It’s like LARP, but apparently it’s more respectable.
For a few years this one guy had kind of been in charge and he was kind of a sexist dick. He would belittle the few women in their organization with “get back in the kitchen” jokes and the like. This pumped up the egos of all the men, so they fell in after him. My uncle included. Even if he didn’t really believe in what they guy was saying, it made him feel good to pretend.
So one day after a round of mocking a particularly precocious female member, the sexist group disbanded. She and my uncle were sort-of friends and she pulled him aside. ”You don’t really believe all that crap they’re selling, do you?” She asked. “Well… yeah.” My uncle responded because he was young and foolish. “Ok.” The girl said. ”Why don’t we get out of here?” And because he was so young and so foolish he actually believed he was going to get some.
She leads him back to the park where they practice, pulls a couple wooden swords and shields out of a bush and says “ok, prove it. Prove that men are better than women.” And immediately begins beating the shit out of him. Then, after soundly kicking his ass she says “Sexism is believing that a woman can’t. Chivalry is believing that a woman shouldn’t have to." After which she threw down her arms and left him on the dirt.
… I have gotten in trouble for using this quote and not citing him. He said “I got my ass kicked for that quote and I damn well wan’t recognition for it!”
So there it is.
I get “fake geek girl” BS in job interviews. I have skipped applying for programming jobs because the ads promote the “bro-centric company culture,” where it is common to drink beer and no one complains about your naughty sense of humor. I have applied at companies that won’t interview me for the position that I’m qualified for because the type of programming that I do is more typical for guys and this other type over here that I don’t do is more typical for girls; in order to show how inclusive of women they are, they strongly encourage me to apply for [girl job] despite me being grossly overqualified for [boy job that I can’t be interviewed for]. I have gone to interviews where it is made clear to me that I’m the affirmative action candidate, that they were intrigued by my claim to play video games [which I was tested on], and then had the technical interviewer act astounded because during my whiteboarding exercise, I followed a coding standard that prevents a security breach and no other applicants did— and then not gotten the job. I have had jobs where my opinion was dismissed by my superiors who were less qualified than me, who repeatedly interrupted me during demos to tell me that I’m doing the demo wrong on a product that the interrupter has never used— and then gotten fired for calmly standing up to him.
So let me tell you why there are so few games with strong female protagonists and so few games with characters that women can identify with as idealized heroes: games are made by men for themselves.
PetticoatDespot (Click for full comment on an also great article)
Yeah but WHY aren’t there more women in the tech center? Must be because of their genetically weird lady brains AMIRITE?!
Not even in the video game industry and catching professional flack for stuff like this. While presenting a theoretical architectural design for a “gaming hotel” to a panel of men, I was asked if I play video games. Not in the “do you even play?” tone, but in a seemingly respectful fact-checking tone. Then when I answered with a quiet “yes” they said “you don’t say that with as much pride as you should.” I’m sorry, I didn’t know that I had to be a militant in-your-face gamer in order to be believable. Even if I wasn’t a gamer, they should be able to assume that I have done enough research on the topic to be able to design effectively. But honestly I don’t think they would have asked me this if I were a man. They didn’t ask my male colleague during his presentation for an observatory if he studied astronomy, they just assumed he’d done his research. They didn’t even ask the male student designing a luxury spa if he’d ever been to one, they just assumed he knew what he was talking about.
Men aren’t afraid of us screaming in their faces, or passionately debating their bullshit. They are, however, fucking terrified of women gathering and being angry together. They don’t laugh at that, do they?